This picture captures my family life when I was a child. My parents were either arguing or not talking at all, and I was left sad, lonely, isolated and scared. They didn’t seem to care about me, or even notice me, let alone the way I felt.
My mother then went on to persuade me to take her side, making me fearful of my father. I thought he was a bad person, and someone to be fearful of. I was confused and lonely. No-one on my side, feeling I had to protect my mother from this dreadful man.
That was until I was 15, and my dad has a nervous breakdown. Today he would have been diagnosed with PTSD, the effects of what he had experienced during the 2nd World War. At that point, I felt really bad and turned on my mother, for at that point I felt she had contributed to my father’s mental state.
A broken family – no communication – no love.
When I think of my childhood, I can’t remember happy times, it’s just filled with ‘if only’.
That’s why I am passionate about helping couples avoid this situation, because not only does it affect them, but also their children. If you feel you are going down that slippery path, I beg you to take action, and if you can’t do it for yourself, then do it for your children, because you are their role model, and I’m sure it’s not what you want for them.
So if you notice you are in a cycle of continual bickering, standoffs or apathy in your relationship – don’t wait until it’s too late.
Take action now.