Seedling requires a lot of loving care and attention – good soil, nutrients, water and light to grow into a healthy strong plant. So a relationship requires loving care and attention to grow into a strong solid partnership.
Just as you would not neglect a seedling, forgetting to water it, or shoving it in a dark cupboard and ignoring it and expecting it to flourish, would you expect a relationship to thrive if it wasn’t given care and attention?
I hear so many couples say they don’t have the time for their relationship,
Of course it isn’t easy when you have busy lives, pressurised jobs, caring for children as well as many other commitments you may have. However if you put your relationship on hold until the career gets off the ground, or the children are older you may discover the relationship is no longer there.
You may find you no longer have anything in common as you have grown apart and not communicating with each other anymore. You have become so engrossed in your world, whether it be career or children that your relationship becomes neglected.
So how can you rekindle your relationship if that is what you really want…………….
Remember what it was like when you first met,
or before things started become mundane.
How did you treat your partner? Now think about the way you behave towards them now. What can you do to make them feel loved and valued?
Think about the way you speak you your partner.
Don’t be rude or bad mannered towards them. You may have had a bad day but it doesn’t mean you have to take it out on them! Once those harsh words are spoken they cannot be taken back and they can really sting -often causing deep resentments.
Spend time together doing things you both enjoy and even try new things.
Going out as a family is important, and it’s nice to spend time with extended family and friends. But it’s equally important to spend time alone, just the two of you. After all it’s your relationship.
Saving your time together for your holiday, while quite nice – really isn’t enough, as relationships need to be worked at daily. If I go back to the analogy of the seedling, you wouldn’t expect it to survive on an annual watering.
Inject some romance into your relationship
A candlelit dinner at home, a bath together, cuddling up on the sofa and really talking to each other, rather than just the mundane chatter that often happens, such as ‘what do you want for dinner?’ ‘Have you put the bin out?’ If that is the level of your communication it will be hardly surprising if your sex life suffers too.