I am often asked how I came specialise in working with people struggling with issues in their relationships, and why I do it. So I thought I would share my story so far…
I was the only child, and my parents were not particularly happy together.There were periods of arguments interspersed with periods when they didn’t talk to each other – or me which left me feeling isolated as an only child. So, I didn’t have a great relationship role model to base any relationships I had as an adult.
I married at 23 and thought I would be in that relationship forever. Sadly after 10 years, it all started going wrong, mainly because neither of us knew how to fix it.
Fast forward a number of years, having brought up my children alone, and also, fortunately, surviving the trauma of breast cancer.
I decided to train as a counsellor. I learned a lot about myself and how my life experiences had shaped me as a person and affected my relationships.
After I qualified as a counsellor, I became a volunteer counsellor at the Rape & Sexual Abuse Centre in Guildford, Surrey. This gave me a great deal of valuable experience. At the same time, I started my private practice initially working with individuals. But relationships kept coming into the work, even when it wasn’t the initial issue the client had brought. I decided to undertake further training so that I could work with couples on their relationships.
I have a lot of life experiences to bring to my work, and I can identify with many of the issues that clients experience. Relationship counselling is nothing to be ashamed of, it is something couples should embrace, a time to re-discover each other and grow as a couple, or make the final decision, knowing you at least tried.
Rediscover the magic in each other with relationship counselling and choose what tomorrow brings. Act now before it’s too late and you lose the most important person in your life