I am often asked how I came to specialise in working with people struggling with issues in their relationships, and why I do it. So I thought I would share my story so far and how I became a relationship coach for couples and individuals in need of some relationship advice.
My past mistakes in relationships can help you avoid them
I was the only child, and my parents were not particularly happy together.There were periods of arguments interspersed with times they just just didn’t talk to each other – or me which left me feeling isolated. So, I didn’t have a great relationship role model to base any relationships, with friendships or future partners. I just didnt have any communcation skills or for that matter social skills.
I married the man of my dreams at 23 and thought I would be in that relationship forever. For the first time I felt really loved and accepted for being me. For a number of years we were happy together. Sadly after 10 years it all started going wrong, and even sadder we just didn’t have the skills to fix it. Neither did we know where to go for help and support. and the marriage ended in divorce.
Fast forward a number of years, having brought up my children alone, and quite a few difficutlies alon the way, including surviving the trauma of breast cancer, I decided to train as a counsellor. I learned a lot about myself and how my life experiences had shaped me as a person and affected my relationships.
After I qualified, I became a volunteer counsellor at the Rape & Sexual Abuse Centre in Guildford, Surrey where I gained so much valuable experience. When somoene expereinces a trauma such as child abuse, it can affect them in so many ways emotionally
- Lack of trus
- Low self-esteem
- Difficulty with making and maintaining relationships
- Experiences flashbacks
- Persistent fear ………………to name just a few.
At the same time, I started my private practice initially working with individuals. But relationships kept coming into the work, even when it wasn’t the initial issue the client had brought. So I undertook further training so that I could work with couples to help them through the tough times. I like to think of myself as a Relationship Coach – educating couples on how to grow within relationships and learn to understand each other’s needs and wants.
I don’t believe that Relationship Coaching and Counselling is anything to be ashamed of. I see it as having the tools and techniques to hand before disaster strieks and you are in a crisis situation, and unable to unravel the problems. It’s something couples should embrace, a time to re-discover each other and grow as a couple.
Rediscover the magic in each other with the help of a relationship coach and choose what tomorrow brings. Act now before it’s too late and you lose the most important person in your life