Do you feel like this at times, do you feel like part of the furniture? Just taken for granted – the drudge who carries out all the chores, cooking, washing, and taxying everyone in the family to their events? But not being noticed for being you!
Your relationship is ok-ish………..you have friends whose relationship are a lot worse, maybe their partner gets drunk all the time, or has affairs, and at least your partner isn’t like that!
But there is something missing and you can’t put your finger on it. If you raise it with your partner he just brushes you aside, saying it’s just because you are both busy, or that he is tired, or tells you to stop nagging.
So, you stop saying anything, feeling more and more miserable – and that you are invisible. And worse – it eats into other parts of your life, and you begin to lose your confidence, feeling you are not good enough.
When things are good between you, you brush it aside telling yourself it was just a blip and it’s not that bad.
But deep down you aren’t happy, you want things to change but you don’t know how to go about it.
You have choices
You can continue in the same way, but if you do – stop and consider what your life will be like in 6 months, 12 months, 2 years and 5 years. Doing nothing won’t change anything!
You can do something about it. Maybe you don’t know what, and anyway your partner certainly isn’t going to do anything, so what is the point?
- All is not lost, because you can do something on your own. Take action, that first step towards a happier relationship.
- There are plenty of books out there on relationships.
- Search the internet for articles.
- Talk to a professional, who can help you clarify your thoughts and help with techniques to move your relationship forward.
So, don’t settle for second best, or a relationship where you feel lonely. You are worth more.