Trust can be a really big issue between couples, and from my experience technology – as much as I welcome and embrace it – seems to be adding to the problems of trust.
I hear couples saying things like –
‘Why is she being so secretive with her credit card statement?’
‘Why does he refuse to take a mobile call and then say it’s a wrong number? ‘
‘Why does he suddenly have to work late most days?’
‘Who is she texting or messaging all the time?’
It’s much better, to be honest, and open with each other, but at the same time, I think we all need a sense of privacy. We shouldn’t have to feel we have to share everything with someone as that then feels claustrophobic. That is very different than hiding things from each other.
Ask yourself why you are not being honest with your partner. Is it that you feel they may disapprove, and if that is the case is that because you don’t feel good about it? Or is your partner controlling you?
We should feel able to be honest with our partner and if we don’t because it may cause a row, then it’s time to really think hard and have a conversation.
Meaningful relationships are built on honesty and trust.