Are You Treating Your Relationship Like A Used Car?
When we first buy a new car – new to us anyway – we take really good care of it. We make sure it’s cleaned regularly inside and out. Woe betide anyone who throws things on the floor or treads muddy shoes in there. We take pride in our new possession, and pay it attention, admiring it. We get concerned if it gets the slightest scratch or scuff on it.
Relationships can be just like that. When we first meet, we pay the other lots of attention, taking good care of them. But as the newness of the relationship wears off, we stop paying them as much attention, taking them for granted. We may stop being so attentive to our partner, taking the view that we don’t have to bother, after all they know we love them, so why should be try any more.
Anyway, we don’t have the same energy, the daily grind of life leaves us feeling tired, and we don’t feel like making all that effort to dress up, and go out as we did when we first met.
The difference is that it won’t take long to spruce up the car, give it a clean and get the scratches or dents repaired, and soon it will be restored to its former glory.
But with a relationship, it’s not so easy. The neglect causes an emotional upset that cannot be spruced up in a jiffy, and the dents and scratches often cause deep scars that cannot be erased as quickly or easily as those on the vehicle.
Relationship problems start, bickering and niggling arguments become more regular occurrences. We stop listening to each other, their complaints just sound like the noise of the engine. We block out the noise, and distract ourselves.
Of course, you can always part-exchange your vehicle quite easily, and affordably. But the cost of a broken relationship is much more, both financially and emotionally. So do you think it worth spending time fixing your relationship ? Or are you happy to ignore the issues until its beyond repair?